Ep. 27 2018 - Kate Crassweller
In this episode I speak with Kate of Helping Little Hands which is a foundation that supports the parents that have little ones in the NICU.
Tell me about yourself.
I am a writer, mother and charity co-founder. I'm 37 and have two kids at home -- 4 (going on 15) and a 2 year old wrecking ball. My husband and I have been together 11 years and married for nearly 7 (where does the time go?!). I love swimming and pre-kids loved to do ocean swims. I'll get back into it one day. Right now, my biggest passion (aside from the family) is the charity my husband and I co-founded with another couple after an extended neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) journey.
Describe for us, a day in the life of you. Do you have any tips or life hacks?
Every day of the week is different. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday I go to my day job and the kids go to 'school'. We have early risers so the day begins before the sun. There is still a rush every day getting two little people and myself ready to be out the door at 7.30. After work we have the mad race to bed -- shower, dinner cooked, eat, books read, kids to sleep and breathe. Thursday the kids and I spend travelling across Sydney for early intervention (my two year old is deaf and has just had a cochlear implant) and Friday is our catch up day. Each night I spend time working on helping little hands. The weekends are for family and fun before it all begins again. We try to get outside with the kids and the dog as much as we can.
When my first was a newborn I was in awe of my cousin and how she always got out of the house with her son -- every day they would do something. When I asked how she did it she shared that it was easier to get out of the house than clean it up after he was home all day. It's something that has really sat with me. Somewhere is going to get messy so it may as well be the park.
What was the best advice you have received?
Life advice: Just do it. You'll always regret what you didn't do rather than what you did.
Mum advice: Pack your bag the night before. You never know what's going to happen with little people -- they may have a horrible sleep or the best sleep of their life -- either option can put morning preparation out of kilter!
What books are you currently reading or do you have a fave Netflix or Stan show?
I do love to read and have a pile of books bedside. Love a binge on a psychological thriller or drama on Netflix.
If you cook, what recipes can you share or meal prep tips?
I love to cook and experiment or should I say loved? I'm vegetarian and love anything spicy, my husband would eat meat every meal and the kids can't decide if they'll eat everything or nothing. We can all agree on pancakes on Sunday mornings and homemade pizza, the rest is a gamble.
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday is all about quick and easy so we have some standard meals that are on regular rotation.
What one area of your life would you like to improve?
I would love to be better at looking after myself without feeling guilty. I think as mums we have a tendency to put ourselves last and, after many years, I'm finally coming to the party and need to put on my own oxygen mask.
Do you have a daily hack to make your smooth?
I am wed to my calendar. We have had so many follow up appointments, I can't keep them all straight in my head. If it's not written down and we miss a specialist's appointment we have to wait a long time before we can get in for another one.
What website have you signed up to that you actually find value in receiving their emails
I love the Collective.
What’s one piece of advice you would give your pre baby self
Filter, filter, filter. Listen to advice but yours is the opinion that matters.
Also, save your money for take-away. Everyone has something to sell but save that money for take-away.
Also, say yes and then let it go when someone offers to help.
What’s the most useful / useless baby item you have?
Useful -- a carrier. Evie lived in our ergo. And books -- my kids devour books.
Useless -- oh, so many things!